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1. What Li Ting said after being domestically abused, these four points of experience should be deeply remembered by everyone.#

• 1. When domestic violence occurs for the first time, you must leave.
• 2. When the other party asks you to give up your career, you must refuse.
• 3. Please do not believe promises that cannot be written in the agreement.
• 4. When the other party uses your weaknesses to control you, you must understand that he is not a good person and should stay away as soon as possible.

Link: Ex-wife accuses Wang Zhian - Terrifying Ex-wife ①
Link: Ex-wife accuses Wang Zhian - Terrifying Ex-wife ②

Wang Zhian's terrifying ex-wife has come out to respond point by point; she has already explained in great detail. Ex-wife Li Ting provides more details and richer examples. It must be said that Li Ting's logical thinking and expression ability are not something ordinary people can reach. Wang Zhian, on the other hand, dares not respond in a video but expresses himself through text, secretly playing word games.

After comprehensive discussions over the past few days, the situation has become clear, and we can now close the coffin lid on Wang Zhian. Wang Zhian's label can be characterized as a domestic violence man, scumbag, PUA, and deceiver. The era of Wang Zhian has faded, just like how you can hardly see Fang Zhouzi and Sima Jiatou now. In the future, every time Wang Zhian expresses an opinion, a large number of people will refute it. The collective silence of the circle awaits the leader's orders, while those people pretend to be cool, completely failing to understand the leader's logic. Teacher Li has recently been reborn; he no longer speaks so cautiously.

Ex-wife Li Ting is a postdoctoral researcher at the Chinese Academy of Sciences, a social media celebrity with 8 million followers on Weibo, and a writer. Wang Zhian, a CCTV reporter skilled in the art of insinuation, cannot compete with ex-wife Li Ting's literary foundation in the face of the truth. The core goal of Wang Zhian's statement is to refute serious accusations such as domestic violence, downplay the domestic violence allegations through word games, attribute the conflict to his ex-wife's illness, claim that Li Ting has depression and cannot distinguish between emotions and facts, implying that her statements are not credible, while using the victim label of illness to downplay the conflict. He shapes the image of a responsible father, repeatedly mentioning "daughter" and "father identity," reinforcing the tragic narrative of "sacrificing for the family." Ex-wife Li Ting also refutes the process and details of the divorce agreement one by one. Wang Zhian's statement is essentially a performance of crisis public relations, attempting to rebuild moral legitimacy in the public opinion arena through emotional mobilization and logical editing.

Wang Zhian's PUA ability is indeed strong; he not only PUAed his wife but also his audience. Now that his persona has completely collapsed, he is morally binding his wife, and all his talk about news ideals and family and country is just his selfish rhetoric. Think about how similar this is to hypocritical politicians; those who appear very grand often do not live up to ordinary people in real life. These people always feel they bear responsibility and put on a good front for outsiders, but their true nature is revealed to close relatives. One can only say that these people are inherently unkind, and their kindness to outsiders is merely a facade.

2. Wang Zhian's 4000-word statement#

Statement:

Dear friends:

The past two weeks have been a constant torment, and until last Sunday night, countless friends' advice and companionship failed, all private efforts collapsed, and the entire situation finally erupted.

I am very sorry to let everyone see my emotional breakdown, a side that is extremely vulnerable. I failed to handle the issues of my relatives around me, and I feel extremely ashamed.

My ex-wife Li Ting started making videos and live broadcasts online on Sunday night, accusing me of many things. I have not responded, considering the child and the impact on her recovery. Many friends have sent me messages saying, "Wang Ju, hold on, no matter how wronged you are, you are a man, and you must bear it."

Li Ting and I have been divorced for three and a half years, but we have a child together. Even though we are divorced, I still consider her a relative. Bearing all this is also my responsibility. Who made us a couple, and we have a child that no one can sever ties with?

However, some of these accusations even involve criminal offenses, such as domestic violence. If I remain silent, it is equivalent to acquiescing.

I am not just myself; I am also a father. I cannot let my daughter develop a misunderstanding about her father that could cause harm. At the same time, I am a core creator of a company. If I cannot work, the entire company will come to a standstill. If I acquiesce to all this, not only will my reputation be ruined, but the overseas Chinese media that our team has worked hard to build over the past three years may also cease operations.

After careful consideration, I still need to issue a statement. Please forgive me; due to the privacy of many parties involved and the presence of a minor child, I cannot go into too much detail. I also do not want to expose all the past experiences that Li Ting and I have encountered online for the audience to comment on. I will only clarify the content that I must clarify at the minimum level. I will not post chat records, divorce agreements, or other evidence regarding these contents. But I guarantee with my life that the following statements are all true:

1. I have never committed any domestic violence against Li Ting, whether in China or Japan, whether during or after marriage. Li Ting suffers from severe depression and often exhibits extreme behavior. Since it involves the child, we have had physical contact in family life, but it was all to prevent tragic events from occurring. I have never acted violently towards her. When we lived in Beijing, Li Ting had called the police multiple times due to family disputes, but not once did the police determine that I had committed domestic violence against Li Ting.

2. The most important purpose of my and Li Ting's immigration to Japan was for our child to receive an education in Japan. Li Ting initially had concerns, but after I took her to visit several kindergartens in Japan, she also thought it was better than domestic education, so we began to apply for visas to come to Japan. Another consideration was that the living environment in China was not conducive to Li Ting's depression, and living in a more comfortable country would benefit her recovery.

Li Ting's original family was unfortunate; she had depression before meeting me, and her symptoms worsened during pregnancy and childbirth. I took her to various hospitals in Beijing, from Peking University Hospital to United Family, from the Sixth Hospital to Xiehe, and starting from 2018, under the guidance of doctors at Xiehe, she began to receive medication treatment.

Initially, I obtained a visa as a family member and did not plan to live in Japan long-term. The original idea was for Li Ting to live in Japan with the child while I worked in China, considering that the flight from Beijing to Tokyo is only three hours, making it convenient to travel back and forth. Since marrying me, Li Ting has not worked, and as her depression worsened, she has found it very difficult to complete systematic work. In June 2019, I was banned from the internet and suddenly lost my job, not even knowing if I would be restricted from leaving the country. In October of that year, after the visa was processed, our family hurriedly came to Tokyo.

Li Ting immediately fell in love with Japan. At that time, I took her and the child to Tokyo and returned to Beijing, hoping to find someone to help lift the ban. I searched for a month without any progress. Li Ting told me on WeChat, "You might as well give up on returning to China and come to Japan completely."

Japan is good, but I do not speak Japanese and have no social connections here. What can I do here? In January 2020, the pandemic hit, and I was stuck in Tokyo, unable to return to China. With no income, I was in a dire situation.

In February 2021, Li Ting and I signed the first divorce agreement. The specific reason for the divorce was clearly stated in the agreement, mainly due to personality incompatibility. I originally thought that leaving the domestic environment and facing difficulties together would bridge the various conflicts that existed before, but we both tried and both failed.

Our divorce was entirely amicable. After signing the divorce agreement in February 2021, I moved out and lived alone in a friend's guesthouse. We completed the legal procedures in Japan in October 2021, and the entire process lasted about eight months. During this time, we revised the divorce agreement several times and ultimately submitted the agreement to the Tokyo District Court. We had lawyers and translators assisting us with the divorce process, all of whom can testify that our negotiation process involved no deception.

3. I never promised not to remarry or have children at the time of the divorce. On the contrary, our divorce agreement clearly states our mutual agreement to remarry, and it also details the rights of both children in the event that either of us has more children. Each agreement contains clauses of the same nature.

4. At the time of our divorce, I was at a low point in my career, having had no income for three years. Our family came to Japan, with a language barrier and an uncertain future. At that time, our divorce agreement stipulated that the child's support would be 1 million yen per year, but I would bear all educational expenses until the child graduated from university. In addition, there were some other forms of support. To be honest, the support amount stipulated in this agreement was not high, but it was the responsibility and obligation I could afford under the premise of having no income.

In November 2021, I returned to China for my mother's funeral and made a final effort to get back to work, but of course, it was fruitless. In April 2022, I returned to Japan, and in early May, I began trying to create content on YouTube. Fortunately, I did not encounter too many setbacks, and the channel started to grow. For the first time in three and a half years, I had income. As my income increased, my support for Li Ting also continued to rise. Currently, the expenses I bear far exceed the numbers stipulated in our divorce agreement, and I can say that this money is enough for Li Ting and her daughter to live a stable middle-class life in Tokyo.

After the divorce, I have been doing my best to help with various matters in Li Ting's household, from renting a house to her mother's visa, from moving to company operations. In 2024, when Li Ting's rental contract expired and she had not found a place to live, I took her family of three to my own residence, where they stayed for nearly three months. At that time, I already had a girlfriend, and to allow Li Ting and her child to move in, I asked my girlfriend to move back to her own place. My girlfriend complained, and I said, "I only have this one daughter; I cannot let her be homeless." I have never mentioned any of this to Li Ting.

I have always believed that my daughter's matters are my matters, and to solve my daughter's issues, I must also help her mother. They are one and the same; if I do not help the mother, I cannot help my daughter.

5. After Li Ting moved out of her rented house, the child's schooling became an issue because moving meant transferring from the original school. To allow the child to continue attending the original school and to provide housing for Li Ting's family, I bought a four-bedroom apartment in Tokyo within a month, and Li Ting's family moved in. Immediately afterward, I lent Li Ting money to buy a house in the school district. As for myself, I have lived in guesthouses and friends' homes over the years and still live in a rented house. I certainly cannot claim that I have done everything perfectly as an ex-husband, but I can say that I have been doing my utmost to help them, whether it is the child or the mother. The mutual support in divorced families cannot be measured by money; the contributions and efforts behind it are difficult for outsiders to appreciate.

Li Ting used to smoke in her early years, and after marrying me, she managed to quit for a while, but after the divorce, she started smoking again, often in front of the child. I often advised her to quit smoking, saying, "If you quit smoking, I will give you an additional 1 million yen each year." Unfortunately, she has never quit. Objectively speaking, perhaps it is precisely because I intervened too much in Li Ting's family affairs after the divorce that it laid the groundwork for the emotional explosion two weeks ago.

6. In January of this year, I went to Europe for an interview. One night, Li Ting complained to me that I took our daughter to Miyako Island for New Year's Day without taking her along. I had indeed said before that I wanted to take her with me, but my current girlfriend was very unhappy when she found out, saying, "How can you do this? You are divorced and still take them on a trip alone." I told Li Ting that I have a girlfriend now, and it might not be convenient to take her along; she should find a time to travel alone with the child, and I would cover all expenses for wherever they go, whether in Japan or abroad. She then said, "Congratulations on finally having a new life, but I hope that if you have children in the future, you must not shift your love; you must give our child some special guarantees." I said, "How could I shift my love? Every child is a child; as parents, how can we neglect one for the other?"

About two weeks ago, Li Ting learned that my girlfriend was pregnant and about to give birth, and her emotions erupted as a result. The nightmarish experiences that followed, I really do not want to recall. I might briefly mention them in a video, but every word I type feels like a thousand arrows piercing my heart.

7. What I want to say is that Li Ting has long suffered from depression, and such diseases often cannot distinguish between emotions and facts. I do not believe that what she has said in her recent videos is intentionally lying; her depression has stabilized her emotions for a long time due to medication. The cause of this emotional explosion is partly due to my failure to handle communication with her properly, and that is my fault.

Those with experience dealing with severe depression in the family can certainly understand that long-term interaction with a person suffering from depression requires extraordinary patience and the ability to endure prolonged stress. This disease harms one's own relatives; the closer the relationship, the more severe their "emotional blackmail." Behind countless family tragedies lies the torment of this disease, affecting both the patient and the family. I am not defending myself; I just want to say that living under this long-term pressure, my emotions often teeter on the brink of collapse. My loss of control on Sunday night was the final result of overwhelming pressure over the past nine days.

During the time Li Ting and I were married, we mostly lived this way. After the divorce, our relationship became much more amicable; she found a new relationship, and we developed a sense of distance, making it easier to get along. Additionally, she has been continuously taking medication for treatment. In the past three and a half years, at least from my perspective, she has become almost a normal person. But sadly, two weeks ago, she suddenly erupted again, returning to her past state overnight. I am very familiar with this kind of behavior; it is extremely painful and evokes deep sympathy. This is not her fault; we are both victims of the disease.

Regarding Li Ting's current mental state, even if I want to help her, I feel powerless. From the ward office to the police, all institutions have advised that we should physically isolate ourselves and have no further contact. I am also very afraid to maintain contact with her in this state, but if I turn away, I am extremely worried about my child, who is only eight years old and at an age where she is constructing her psychological logic.

When Li Ting was pregnant, she suffered from hypothyroidism. The doctor said that there was a high probability that this child would have intellectual impairments and suggested abortion. Li Ting was resolute at that time, insisting on having the child and accepting rapid thyroid hormone treatment. During that time, she often could not sleep due to medication reactions, and we were also worried that the child might have congenital defects. It was during that time that Li Ting's emotions were very unstable, and I had to call an ambulance twice in my life, both occurring during that period.

After the child was born, immediate checks were conducted, and the doctor said all indicators were normal. However, the child's intelligence would not be evident until two or three years later. We have been accompanying the child through various checks as she grows up, and now she is growing up smart and clever.

Last Wednesday night, Li Ting lost control of her emotions at my house. The child quietly picked up her mother's phone and called one of our mutual friends downstairs. This friend rushed to the scene and ultimately took Li Ting and the child back to her own home. The understanding of an eight-year-old child is heartbreaking.

Last Sunday morning, Li Ting and I had an argument at our house. After days of silence, the child, who had been quietly watching, suddenly shouted, "Are you considering my feelings while you argue back and forth?" In that moment, the child acted like a parent, holding back for the greater good, while we acted like ignorant children.

I need Li Ting to stand up again and return to the state she was in over the past few years. I am very grateful for her determination and persistence back then, which brought us an angel-like daughter. I have videos and photos of my daughter from the delivery room to last week saved on my phone. Whenever I encounter troubling matters, I open my phone and listen to her baby voice from back then, and my heart is healed.

Now, our child is waiting for her to accompany her, waiting for her to grow up with her. They are both parts of each other's lives, inseparable and connected by blood. If they are healthy, they will be healthy together; if one collapses, the other will collapse too. To prevent the cycle of this disease from passing down through generations, I must help Li Ting get better again.

I hope everyone can come together to support me and Li Ting. What she needs now is help—help her seek medical advice based on her condition, stabilize her medication, and help her regain emotional stability, rather than adding fuel to her emotions online. This is the advice of professional doctors.

Such "support" will only worsen her condition, and while we, her relatives, suffer from the pain, we can only helplessly watch her head towards the abyss.

Please give Li Ting, our daughter, and me a hopeful future. Thank you all.

3. How Deepseek evaluates Wang Zhian's rhetoric#

Wang Zhian's statement is a carefully constructed text that employs various rhetorical strategies to respond to accusations, shape his persona, and guide public emotions. The following analysis focuses on five dimensions: emotional manipulation, logical construction, responsibility shifting, authoritative endorsement, and privacy boundaries.

s1. Emotional Manipulation: Trading "Victimhood" for Sympathy#

1. Self-exposure of Vulnerability

   • The opening emphasizes words like "torment," "emotional breakdown," and "thousand arrows piercing the heart," dramatizing personal pain and positioning himself as a "victim" to evoke reader empathy.
   • Repeatedly mentioning "daughter" and "father identity" reinforces the tragic narrative of "sacrificing for the family" (e.g., "cannot let daughter be homeless," "child acts like a parent"), utilizing the parent-child bond to stimulate moral resonance.

2. Dehumanization and Pathologization of the Ex-wife

   • Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "depression causing confusion between emotions and facts," implying her statements are not credible, while using the "victim of illness" label to downplay the substantive conflict.
   • Emphasizing Li Ting's "extreme behavior" and "emotional instability" shapes her as "irrational," indirectly weakening the legitimacy of the accusations.

s2. Logical Construction: Selective Narration and Information Concealment#

1. One-sided Presentation of Facts

   • Only providing details favorable to himself (e.g., divorce agreement terms, financial support, assistance in buying a house), while avoiding specific rebuttals to the accusations (e.g., not posting chat records, police records).
   • Using "guarantee with my life" to strengthen the credibility of the statement, but lacking empirical support, relying on personal credibility.

2. Ambiguity of Timeline and Causal Relationships

   • Attributing the marriage breakdown to "personality incompatibility" and "depression," downplaying potential issues on his part (e.g., marital conflicts, communication responsibilities).
   • Attributing the outbreak of conflict to the "current girlfriend's pregnancy," suggesting Li Ting's "emotional instability" is an isolated incident, avoiding the accumulation of long-term conflicts.

s3. Responsibility Shifting: External Attribution and Moral Coercion#

1. Blaming External Forces

   • Emphasizing being "banned from the internet" and "stuck in Tokyo due to the pandemic" as external pressures, transforming personal dilemmas into a tragedy of the times, reducing personal decision-making responsibility.
   • Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "depression episodes," shifting public focus away from the facts themselves and pathologizing the conflict.

2. Occupying the Moral High Ground

   • Repeatedly stressing "sacrificing for the daughter" (e.g., sacrificing the current girlfriend, lending money to buy a house), shaping the image of a "selfless father," implying that Li Ting's actions harm the child's interests.
   • Calling on the public to "support Li Ting's medical treatment rather than adding fuel to the fire," equating public criticism with "harming the patient," forcing the public to side with the "rational sympathy" camp.

s4. Authoritative Endorsement: Utilizing Institutions and Third Parties to Enhance Credibility#

1. Legal and Procedural Justice

   • Emphasizing that the divorce agreement was certified by "lawyers, translators, and the Tokyo District Court," using the legitimacy of judicial procedures to prove the propriety of his actions.
   • Mentioning "the police did not determine domestic violence," borrowing the conclusions of public authority to refute accusations and avoid specific detail disputes.

2. Monopolizing Medical Discourse

   • Frequently referencing "doctor's advice" and "professional treatment," packaging his stance as scientific and rational, implying that what Li Ting needs is medical intervention rather than public support, weakening the legitimacy of her voice.

s5. Privacy Boundaries: Controlling the Narrative in the Name of Protection#

1. Selective Disclosure of Privacy

   • Refusing to provide evidence (e.g., chat records) under the guise of "protecting minors," while proactively disclosing Li Ting's illness, smoking habits, and hypothyroidism treatment, creating an unequal information power dynamic.
   • By "sharing painful details" (e.g., calling an ambulance, concerns about the child's intelligence), he reinforces the tragic narrative while avoiding disclosure of information unfavorable to himself.

2. Blurring Public and Private Domains

   • Elevating family conflicts to "social issues" (e.g., the challenges of families dealing with depression, mutual support in divorced families), guiding the public to shift from private ethical discussions to public emotional resonance, downplaying personal responsibility.

s6. Summary: Goals of Rhetoric and Potential Risks#

The core goals of Wang Zhian's statement are: ① to refute serious accusations such as domestic violence and maintain personal reputation; ② to attribute conflicts to his ex-wife's illness and shift public focus; ③ to shape the persona of a "responsible father/victim" and garner public support.

Potential Risks:

• Pathologizing Accusations: Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "disease-induced" behavior may provoke stigma against mental health communities.
• Lack of Evidence: The absence of substantial evidence (e.g., police records, original agreements) means the statement relies on emotional persuasion rather than factual clarification, making it vulnerable to credibility challenges.
• Public Backlash: Overemphasizing the "sacrifice narrative" may lead the public to question his motives (e.g., using the daughter to gain sympathy), especially regarding sensitive details like the current girlfriend's pregnancy, potentially sparking moral controversy.

This statement is essentially a performance of crisis public relations, attempting to rebuild moral legitimacy in the public opinion arena through emotional mobilization and logical editing. The public should be vigilant about the boundaries between "truth" and "narrative" in such texts, maintaining caution between sympathy and criticism.