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1. What Li Ting said after being abused at home, these four points of experience should be deeply remembered by everyone.#

• 1. When domestic violence happens for the first time, you must leave.
• 2. When the other party asks you to give up your career, you must refuse.
• 3. Please do not believe promises that cannot be written in the agreement.
• 4. When the other party uses your weaknesses to control you, you must understand that he is not a good person and should stay away as soon as possible.

Link: Ex-wife accuses Wang Zhian - Terrifying Ex-wife ①
Link: Ex-wife accuses Wang Zhian - Terrifying Ex-wife ②

Wang Zhian's terrifying ex-wife has come out to respond point by point; she has already explained in great detail. Ex-wife Li Ting provides more details and richer examples. It must be said that Li Ting's logical thinking and expression ability are not something ordinary people can reach. Wang Zhian, on the other hand, dares not respond in a video but expresses himself through text, secretly playing word games.

After a few days of debate from all sides, the situation has become clear, and it can be said that Wang Zhian's coffin lid can be closed. Wang Zhian's label can be characterized as a domestic violence man, scumbag, PUA, and deceiver. The era of Wang Zhian has already faded, just like how you can hardly see Fang Zhouzi and Sima Jiatou now. In the future, every time Wang Zhian expresses an opinion, a large number of people will refute it. The group is collectively silent, waiting for the leader's orders, while those people are pretending to be cool, completely unable to understand the leader's logic. Teacher Li has recently been reborn; he no longer speaks so cautiously.

Ex-wife Li Ting is a postdoctoral researcher at the Chinese Academy of Sciences, a social media influencer with 8 million followers on Weibo, and a writer. Wang Zhian, a CCTV reporter skilled in writing with a spring and autumn brush, naturally cannot compete with ex-wife Li Ting's writing skills in the face of the truth. The core goal of Wang Zhian's statement is to refute serious accusations such as domestic violence, to downplay the domestic violence accusations through word games; to attribute the conflict to his ex-wife's illness, claiming that Li Ting has depression and cannot distinguish between emotions and facts, implying that her statements are not credible, while using the victim label of illness to downplay the conflict. He shapes the image of a responsible father, repeatedly mentioning "daughter" and "father identity," reinforcing the tragic narrative of "sacrificing for the family." Ex-wife Li Ting also refutes the process and details of the divorce agreement one by one. Wang Zhian's statement is essentially a performance of crisis public relations, attempting to rebuild moral legitimacy in the public opinion arena through emotional mobilization and logical editing.

Wang Zhian's PUA ability is indeed strong; he not only PUA'd his wife but also his audience. Now that his persona has completely collapsed, he is morally binding his wife, and all the news ideals, family and country, are just his selfish rhetoric. Think about how similar this is to hypocritical politicians; those who appear very grand often do not live up to ordinary people in real life. These types of people always feel that they bear responsibility and put on a good front for outsiders, but their true nature is revealed to close relatives. One can only say that these types of people are inherently unkind, and their kindness to outsiders is merely a facade.

2. Wang Zhian's 4000-word statement#

Statement:

Dear friends:

The past two weeks have been a constant torment, and until last Sunday night, countless friends' advice and companionship failed, all private efforts collapsed, and the entire situation finally erupted.

I am very sorry to let everyone see my emotional breakdown, an incredibly vulnerable side. I have not handled the issues with my relatives well, and I feel extremely ashamed.

My ex-wife Li Ting started making videos and live broadcasts online on Sunday night, accusing me of many things. I have not responded, considering the child and the impact on her recovery. Many friends have sent me messages saying, "Wang Ju, hold on, no matter how wronged you are, you are a man, and you must bear it."

Li Ting and I have been divorced for three and a half years, but we have a child together. Even though we are divorced, I have always regarded her as family. Bearing all this is also my responsibility. Who made us a couple, and we have a child that no one can sever ties with?

However, some of these accusations even involve criminal offenses, such as domestic violence. If I remain silent, it is equivalent to acquiescing.

I am not just myself; I am also a father. I cannot let my daughter have a misunderstanding about her father that could cause harm. At the same time, I am also a core creator of a company. If I cannot work, the entire company will come to a standstill. If I acquiesce to all this, not only will my reputation be ruined, but the overseas Chinese media that our team has worked hard to build over the past three years may also cease operations.

After careful consideration, I still need to issue a statement. Please forgive me; due to the privacy of many parties involved and the presence of a minor child, I cannot go into too much detail. I also do not want to expose all the past experiences that Li Ting and I have encountered online for the audience to comment on; I will only clarify the content that I must clarify at the minimum level. I will not post chat records, divorce agreements, or other evidence regarding these contents. But I guarantee with my life that the following statements are all true:

1. I have never committed any domestic violence against Li Ting, whether in China or Japan, whether during or after marriage. Li Ting suffers from severe depression and often exhibits extreme behavior. There have been physical contacts in our family life, but they were all to prevent tragic events from happening. I have never acted violently against her. When we lived in Beijing, Li Ting called the police multiple times due to family disputes, but not once did the police determine that I had committed domestic violence against her.

2. The most important purpose of Li Ting and I immigrating to Japan was for our child to receive an education there. Li Ting initially had concerns, but I took her to visit several kindergartens in Japan, and after seeing them, she also thought they were better than domestic education, so we began to apply for visas to come to Japan. Another consideration was that the living environment in China was not conducive to Li Ting's depression; living in a more comfortable country would benefit her recovery.

Li Ting's original family was unfortunate; she had depression before meeting me, and her symptoms worsened during pregnancy and childbirth. I took her to various hospitals in Beijing, from Peking University Hospital to United Family, from the Sixth Hospital to Xiehe. Starting around 2018, under the guidance of doctors at Xiehe, she began to receive medication treatment.

Initially, I obtained a visa as a family member and did not plan to live in Japan long-term. The original idea was for Li Ting to live in Japan with the child while I worked in China, considering that the flight between Beijing and Tokyo is only three hours, making it convenient to travel back and forth. Since marrying me, Li Ting has not worked, and as her depression worsened, she has found it very difficult to complete systematic work. In June 2019, I was banned from the internet, suddenly lost my job, and did not even know if I would be placed under travel restrictions. In October of that year, after the visa was processed, our family hurriedly came to Tokyo.

Li Ting immediately fell in love with Japan. At that time, I took her and the child to Tokyo and returned to Beijing, hoping to find someone to help lift the ban. I searched aimlessly for a month with no progress. Li Ting told me on WeChat, "You might as well give up on returning to China and come to Japan completely."

Japan is good, but I do not speak Japanese and have no social connections here. What can I do here? In January 2020, the pandemic hit, and I was trapped in Tokyo, unable to return to China. With no income, I was in a dire situation.

In February 2021, Li Ting and I signed the first divorce agreement. The specific reasons for the divorce were clearly stated in the agreement, mainly due to personality incompatibility. I originally thought that leaving the domestic environment and facing difficulties together would resolve the various conflicts that existed in China, but we both tried and both failed.

Our divorce was amicable throughout. After signing the divorce agreement in February 2021, I moved out and lived alone in a friend's guesthouse. We completed the legal procedures in Japan in October 2021, and the entire process lasted about eight months. During this time, we revised the divorce agreement several times, and ultimately submitted the agreement to the Tokyo District Court. The lawyers and translators who helped us with the divorce procedures can witness that there was no deception in our negotiation process.

3. I never promised during the divorce not to remarry or have children. On the contrary, our divorce agreement clearly states our mutual agreement to remarry, and it also details the rights of both parties' children in the event that either of us has children again. Each agreement contains clauses of the same nature.

4. At the time of our divorce, I was at a low point in my career, having had no income for three years. Our family came to Japan, and with a language barrier, the future seemed bleak. At that time, our divorce agreement stipulated that the child support would be 1 million yen per year, but I would bear all educational expenses for the child until college graduation. In addition, there were some other forms of support. To be honest, the child support stipulated in this agreement was not high, but it was the responsibility and obligation I could afford under the premise of having no income.

In November 2021, I returned to China for my mother's funeral and made one last effort to get back to work, but of course, there were no results. In April 2022, I returned to Japan, and in early May, I began to try making YouTube videos. Fortunately, I did not encounter too many setbacks, and the channel took off, finally generating income for the first time in three and a half years. As my income increased, my support for Li Ting also continued to rise. Nowadays, the expenses I bear far exceed the numbers stipulated in our divorce agreement, and I can say that this money is enough for Li Ting and her daughter to live a stable middle-class life in Tokyo.

After the divorce, I have been doing my best to take care of various matters in Li Ting's household, from renting a house to her mother's visa, from moving to company operations. In 2024, when Li Ting's rental contract expires and she has not found a place to live, I brought her family of three to my own residence, where they stayed for nearly three months. At this time, I already had a girlfriend, and to allow Li Ting and her child and elderly mother to move in, I asked my girlfriend to move back to her own place. My girlfriend complained, and I said, "I only have this one daughter; I cannot let her be homeless." I have never mentioned any of this to Li Ting.

I have always believed that my daughter's matters are my matters, and to solve my daughter's issues, I must also help her mother. They are one and the same; if I do not help the mother, I cannot help my daughter.

5. After Li Ting moved out of her rented house, the child's schooling became a problem because moving meant transferring from the original school. To allow the child to continue attending the original school and to provide housing for Li Ting's family, I bought a four-bedroom apartment in Tokyo within a month, and Li Ting's family moved in. Immediately after, I lent Li Ting money to buy a house in the school district. As for myself, I have lived in guesthouses and friends' homes over the years and still live in a rented house. I certainly cannot claim that I have done everything perfectly as an ex-husband, but I dare say that I have always done my utmost to help them, whether it is the child or the mother. The mutual support in divorced families is not something that can be measured in money; the efforts and contributions behind it are difficult for outsiders to understand.

Li Ting used to smoke, and after marrying me, she managed to quit for a while, but after the divorce, she started smoking again, often in front of the child. I often advised her to quit smoking, saying, "If you quit smoking, I will give you an additional 1 million yen each year." Unfortunately, she has never quit. Objectively speaking, perhaps it is precisely because I intervened too much in Li Ting's family matters after the divorce that it laid the groundwork for the emotional explosion two weeks ago.

6. In January of this year, I went to Europe for an interview. One night, Li Ting complained to me that I took our daughter to Miyako Island for New Year's without taking her along. I had indeed said before that I wanted to take her, but my current girlfriend was very unhappy when she found out, saying, "How can you do this? You are divorced and still take them on a trip alone." I told Li Ting that I have a girlfriend now, and it might not be convenient to take her along; why not find a time to travel alone with the child, wherever it may be, in Japan or abroad, I will cover all the expenses for you. She then said, "Congratulations on finally having a new life, but I hope that if you have children in the future, you must not transfer your love; you must give our child some special guarantees." I said, "How could I transfer my love? Every child is a child; as parents, how could we neglect one for the other?"

About two weeks ago, Li Ting learned that my girlfriend was pregnant and about to give birth, and her emotions exploded as a result. The nightmare experience that followed, I really do not want to recall. I might briefly mention it in a video, but every word I type feels like a thousand arrows piercing my heart.

7. What I want to say is that Li Ting has suffered from depression for a long time, and such diseases often cannot distinguish between emotions and facts. I do not believe that the content she has been discussing in her recent videos is intentionally lying; her depression has stabilized her emotions for a long time due to medication, and the cause of this emotional explosion is partly due to my failure to handle communication with her properly, which is my fault.

Those who have experience with severe depression in the family can certainly understand that dealing with a depressed person for a long time requires extra patience and the ability to withstand prolonged pressure. This disease harms one's own family; the closer the relatives, the more severe their "emotional blackmail." Behind countless family tragedies, this disease torments both the patient and the family. I am not defending myself; I just want to say that living under such long-term pressure, my emotions are often on the verge of collapse. My loss of control on Sunday night was the final result of countless overwhelming pressures over the past nine days.

During the time Li Ting and I were married, we mostly lived this way. After the divorce, our relationship became much more amicable; she found a new relationship, and we became more distant, making it easier to get along. Additionally, she has been continuously taking medication for treatment, and in the past three and a half years, at least from my perspective, she has become almost a normal person. But sadly, two weeks ago, she suddenly exploded again, returning to her past state overnight. I am very familiar with this kind of behavior; it is extremely painful and I feel great sympathy. This is not her fault; we are both victims of the disease.

As for Li Ting's current mental state, even if I want to help her, I am powerless. From the ward office to the police, all institutions suggest that we should physically isolate ourselves and have no further contact. I am also very afraid to maintain contact with her in this state, but if I turn away, I am extremely worried about my child, who is only eight years old and at an age where she is forming the foundational logic of her psyche.

When Li Ting was pregnant, she suffered from hypothyroidism, and the doctor said that there was a high probability that this child would have intellectual impairments and suggested an abortion. Li Ting was resolute at that time, insisting on having this child and accepting rapid thyroid hormone treatment. During that time, she often could not sleep due to medication reactions, and we were also worried that the child might have congenital defects. It was during that time that Li Ting's emotions were very unstable; I had two experiences of calling an ambulance in my life, both of which happened during that time.

After the child was born, immediate checks were conducted, and the doctor said all indicators were normal. However, the child's IQ would only be apparent at two or three years old. We accompanied the child through various checks as she grew up, and now she is growing up smart and clever.

Last Wednesday night, Li Ting lost control of her emotions at my house. The child quietly picked up her mother's phone and called one of our mutual friends downstairs. This friend rushed to the scene and ultimately took Li Ting and the child back to her own home. The understanding of an eight-year-old child is heartbreaking.

On Sunday morning last week, Li Ting and I had a quarrel at our home. During these days of silence, the child, who had been quietly watching, suddenly shouted, "You guys keep arguing; have you considered my feelings?" At that moment, the child was like a parent, enduring for the greater good, while we acted like irresponsible children.

I need Li Ting to stand up again and return to the state she was in over the past few years. I am very grateful for her determination and persistence back then, which brought us an angelic daughter. I have videos and photos of my daughter from the delivery room to last week saved on my phone. Whenever I encounter troubling matters, I open my phone and listen to her baby voice from back then, and my heart is healed.

Now, our child is waiting for her to accompany her, waiting for her to grow up with her. They are both parts of each other's lives, inseparable and connected by blood. If they are healthy, they will be healthy together; if they collapse, they will collapse together. To prevent the cycle of this disease from being passed down through generations, I must help Li Ting get better again.

I hope everyone can come together to support me and Li Ting; what she needs now is help, help her seek medical advice based on her condition, stabilize her medication, and let her emotions stabilize again, rather than adding fuel to her emotions online. This is the advice of professional doctors.

Such "support" will only worsen her condition. While we relatives suffer from the pain, we can only helplessly watch her head towards the abyss.

Please give Li Ting, our daughter, and me a hopeful future. Thank you all.

3. How Deepseek evaluates Wang Zhian's rhetoric#

Wang Zhian's statement is a carefully constructed text that responds to accusations, shapes his persona, and guides public emotions through various rhetorical strategies. The following analysis focuses on five dimensions: emotional manipulation, logical construction, responsibility shifting, authoritative endorsement, and privacy boundaries.

s1. Emotional manipulation: trading "weakness" for sympathy#

1. Self-exposure of vulnerability

   • The opening emphasizes words like "torment," "emotional breakdown," and "thousand arrows piercing the heart," dramatizing personal pain and placing himself in the "victim" position, evoking reader empathy.
   • Repeatedly mentioning "daughter" and "father identity" reinforces the tragic narrative of "sacrificing for the family" (e.g., "cannot let daughter be homeless," "child like a parent enduring"), utilizing the parent-child bond to stimulate moral resonance.

2. Dehumanization and pathologization of the ex-wife

   • Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "depression causing confusion between emotions and facts," implying her statements are not credible, while using the "victim of illness" label to downplay the substantive conflict.
   • Emphasizing Li Ting's "extreme behavior" and "emotional breakdown," shaping her as "irrational," indirectly weakening the legitimacy of the accusations.

s2. Logical construction: selective narrative and information concealment#

1. One-sided factual presentation

   • Only providing details favorable to himself (e.g., divorce agreement terms, financial support, help with buying a house), avoiding specific rebuttals to accusations (e.g., not posting chat records, police records).
   • Using "guarantee with my life" to reinforce the credibility of the statement, but lacking empirical support, relying on personal credibility.

2. Ambiguity in timelines and causal connections

   • Attributing the marriage breakdown to "personality incompatibility" and "depression," downplaying his own potential issues (e.g., marital conflicts, communication responsibilities).
   • Attributing the explosion of conflict to the "current girlfriend's pregnancy," suggesting Li Ting's "emotional breakdown" is an isolated incident, avoiding the accumulation of long-term conflicts.

s3. Responsibility shifting: external attribution and moral coercion#

1. Blaming external forces

   • Emphasizing being "banned from the internet" and "trapped in Tokyo due to the pandemic," transforming personal difficulties into a tragedy of the times, reducing personal decision-making responsibility.
   • Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "depression flare-ups," shifting public attention from the facts themselves and pathologizing the conflict.

2. Occupying the moral high ground

   • Repeatedly emphasizing "sacrificing for the daughter" (e.g., sacrificing the current girlfriend, lending money to buy a house), shaping the image of a "selfless father," implying Li Ting's actions harm the child's interests.
   • Calling on the public to "support Li Ting's medical treatment rather than adding fuel to the fire," equating public criticism with "harming the patient," forcing the public to side with the "rational sympathy" camp.

s4. Authoritative endorsement: leveraging institutions and third parties to enhance credibility#

1. Legal and procedural justice

   • Emphasizing that the divorce agreement was certified by "lawyers, translators, and the Tokyo District Court," using the legitimacy of judicial procedures to prove the propriety of his actions.
   • Mentioning "the police did not determine domestic violence," borrowing the conclusions of public authority to refute accusations and avoiding specific detail disputes.

2. Monopolizing medical discourse

   • Frequently citing "doctor's advice" and "professional treatment," packaging his stance as scientific and rational, implying that what Li Ting needs is medical intervention rather than public support, weakening the legitimacy of her voice.

s5. Privacy boundaries: controlling the narrative in the name of protection#

1. Selective disclosure of privacy

   • Refusing to provide evidence (e.g., chat records) under the pretext of "protecting minors," while proactively disclosing Li Ting's illness, smoking habits, and hypothyroidism treatment, creating an unequal information power dynamic.
   • By "sharing painful details" (e.g., calling an ambulance, concerns about the child's IQ), reinforcing the tragic narrative while avoiding disclosure of information unfavorable to himself.

2. Blurring public and private domains

   • Elevating family conflicts to "social issues" (e.g., the challenges of families with depression, mutual support in divorced families), guiding the public to shift from private ethical discussions to public emotional resonance, downplaying personal responsibility.

s6. Summary: goals of rhetoric and potential risks#

The core goals of Wang Zhian's statement are: ① to refute serious accusations such as domestic violence and maintain personal reputation; ② to attribute conflicts to his ex-wife's illness and shift the focus of public opinion; ③ to shape the persona of a "responsible father/victim" and gain public support.

Potential risks:

• Pathologizing accusations: Attributing Li Ting's accusations to "disease causes" may provoke controversy over the stigmatization of mental illness groups.
• Lack of evidence: Lacking substantial evidence (e.g., police records, original agreements), the statement relies on emotional persuasion rather than factual clarification, making it vulnerable to credibility challenges.
• Public backlash: Overemphasizing the "sacrifice narrative" may lead the public to question his motives (e.g., using the daughter to gain sympathy), especially regarding sensitive details like the current girlfriend's pregnancy, potentially sparking moral controversy.

This statement is essentially a performance of crisis public relations, attempting to rebuild moral legitimacy in the public opinion arena through emotional mobilization and logical editing. The public should be wary of the boundaries between "truth" and "narrative" in such texts, maintaining caution between sympathy and criticism.